Tips & Tricks
Reflect on your past successes
When you are feeling low, reflecting on past achievements can instantly make you feel more positive. These successes need not be huge achievements such a running a marathon; remind yourself of small achievements such as being successful in a job interview or passing your driving exam. No matter what your circumstances are, there will always be a challenge in your life that you have successful overcome so get your thinking cap on!
Watch others who are confident
Like most life skills, the skill of being confident can be learned. Think of someone whose confidence you admire and observe his or her behaviour. Watch how they walk, how they talk and how they communicate with others. Are there any tips that you can pick up from them? The next time you need more confidence, try and think about the way that they would behave. What would they do?
Be kind to yourself
We wouldn't dream of talking to a friend the way that we chastise ourselves. For example, you would never say to a friend "you can't do anything right can you?" If you say this sort of thing to yourself all the time then you are bound to suffer from low self-esteem. Keep your negative self-talk in check and it could make the difference between feeling positive or feeling miserable.
Walk the walk
Confident people stand up straight, look relaxed, walk purposefully and smile. If you act as if you are confident on the outside, it will follow through to a feeling of confidence. If your body language is closed, your head is down and your shoulders are slumped you will not feel your best and others will perceive you as unconfident. Changing your body language is one thing that you can do instantly with immediate effect.
Alter your definition of failure
One area of personal development known as NLP [Neuro Linguistic Programming] conforms the belief that there is no such thing as failure, only feedback. For example, if you compare two children, both of whom are learning to write their names; the first child keeps making mistakes but each time he makes a mistake he thinks "I'll do it differently next time, I can learn from my mistakes". The second child keeps making mistakes and believes that she will never be able to do it.
The experience puts her off from writing and she sees herself as a failure. An extreme example maybe but many of us have the mindset of the second child. Instead of viewing mistakes as failures, why not challenge yourself to see them as an opportunity for learning?