How To Monitor Your Kids And Makeup
Sometimes children apply makeup simply because they have seen their friends do it and want to fit in, or they have blemishes that they are self-conscious about and want to cover up. Worried parents, however, sometimes take the use of makeup as the child's way of growing up and leaving their childhood behind. They can also be concerned that it's their child's attempts to become more attractive to the opposite sex, something that can instil fear into mums and dads as they worry about their child's innocence disappearing. There are ways, however, to monitor your child's use of cosmetics and make sure it doesn't go too far without becoming a controlling parent and push your child away.
Ask your child why she wants to wear makeup
When your child starts to show the first bit of interest in makeup discuss with her why she feels the need to apply it. She may say she is simply trying it out as her friends are, or she may open her heart and explain that she is unhappy due to those dreaded teenage spots. Her reaction can help you gauge how to deal with the situation. It may also stop you getting worried or panicky when all your child wants to do is conceal a few pimples.
Allow her to start slowly
If your child is very persistent about wearing makeup then let her start with the very basics. Allow her to wear tinted lip balm or a little dab of concealer over blemishes she is self-conscious of. Only as she is older should she be introduced to foundation, lipstick and mascara. There are several brands of makeup that specialise in cosmetics for "tweens." These are more suitable for younger faces and specifically geared towards children who aren't quite ready for adult cosmetics.
Go with your child to buy the makeup
Try and get involved in your child's interest in makeup and offer to take her to buy a few items. Make it clear that she will be allowed to wear only what you agree to but that you can both choose together. This way your child feels as though she is being supported and that you are being understanding. It also gives you the chance to see what your child is gravitating towards and enables you to keep an eye on her purchases.
Teach her how to apply makeup
Having bought the makeup with your child, why not teach her how to apply it? She will probably be flattered that you are wanting to be involved rather than dismissing it altogether, and by helping you can keep track of what your child is applying to her face. When you think she is ready and mature enough to move on to more sophisticated cosmetics such as mascara, show her how to apply it and explain when it is most suitable to wear it.
Stop makeup before it becomes too much
By doing all of above you should limit the possibility of your child wearing too much makeup. However, if she comes down to breakfast one day looking like a pantomime dame, take her aside and explain that she would look far better if she took the less-is-more approach. Maybe repeat the steps above and take her shopping for some new but natural makeup, and show her how to apply that instead. Many children will listen and take more advice than perhaps the parent expects them to.